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Archive for December, 2010

To people hearing about it theoretically, premature ejaculation could look like a small problem. But to the people directly affected by premature ejaculation, the couple where the man ejaculates prematurely, this can be a devastating problem.

On the Man’s side

On the man’s side, for one, premature ejaculation means ‘inability to perform’. This is a huge blow to him, because men are very performance-oriented in their thinking. He may try to mask it, making it look as if he is in control of his attitude towards his premature ejaculation problem, but he still ends up feeling as if his worth as a man is in question. Then the fears set in, enhancing the psychological stress from the already bad situation that set in when the premature ejaculation started. Subconsciously, at least, the man wonders, for instance, whether his woman will end up straying; now that he is unable to satisfy her due to his premature ejaculation. If its quite a casual relationship he has – like those college students have with each other – the man ends up developing a fear, again at least subconsciously, that ‘news’ about his premature ejaculation may spread around and ‘dent his social resume.’

For a man, being a premature ejaculator ranks right up there with impotence for being a major sexual dysfunction. So, it is quite understandable that you would want to determine the cause of the problem, and seek to correct it.

Among the issues that can lead to premature ejaculation is smoking. It has been found that men who smoke more than ten cigarettes a day are at a greater risk of pre ejaculation. One positive aspect of this problem is that a simple means of how to overcome premature ejaculation is to quit smoking. Once the tar, nicotine and other chemicals in the cigarettes clear your system, the problem often clears, and you’ll find that you last longer in bed.

Research has shown that the vast majority of causes of premature ejaculation are psychological in nature. This is good news for most men, as it means that identifying the problem and dealing with it won’t include medicine, probing procedures or an operation.

With many people, their psychological issues originate in childhood, which is quite common. Therapists and researchers long ago realized that the events of our childhood: school yard fights, failures in class, disappointments with parents, and other events are very important in the construction of our psyche. For men, they typically discover sexual self-gratification (masturbation) when they hit puberty. In American society, we tend to frown on this act; many religions openly condemn it. So, boys learn to do it as quickly as possible, to avoid detection, and this can carry over to adulthood. When they begin to engage in sex with a partner, their body is used to climaxing quickly, and thus they do it without thinking.